Tell me have you seen her?

So I went out and celebrated a couple court victories I had this week. As such, I feel expressive. I wrote this about a woman I wish I knew. Thought I'd share.

"I've never been enthralled to anyone's pussy before I met you. I lose myself in thoughts of taking you to the floor as soon as you walk in the door. To feel your ankles dance upon my back as I give you all of me is the highest of highs. I will stop at nothing to ensure your ultimate sexual satisfaction comes as natural as breathing. Come home soon so I can get back to work."

Girl Talk... Where's the Honesty?

Ladies, if a man isn't pleasing you sexually, how do you handle it? I'm willing to bet most of you don't tell him what he needs to hear; the TRUTH. I know our egos tend to be overinflated and fragile at times. But if you don't let a man know he needs to step his game up, he'll continue screwing it up. I've heard plenty of stories with details about how disappointed women were with men's performance. If you're not going to kick him out and tell him why he's gotta go, or tell him that he needs to do something better or not at all, you're contributing to his falsely overinflated ego thereby making the problem worse. Sure his feelings might be hurt, but he'll go walk it off eventually and step his game up.

Men should have a passion to study the female form just like we'd study anything else. Sure every woman is different, but all women respond to the attention you pay towards mastering physically pleasing them, and they'll be all the more willing to work with you. Plus, real talk, if you want her to remember the time she spent with you, you'll man up and learn what it takes.

Sink or Seduce: What Kind of Woman Are YOU?!

Beyonce is quite possibly the sexiest woman on Earth. I mean, check the picture if you doubt it. Even though this performance was exactly that, you gotta admit it was a bit much for an award show. How many women do you know could give a man who everyone knows is not her boyfriend a lap dance like this in front of millions of people and not be considered a hoe or slut (all hating aside)?

The crucial difference between the average woman and Beyonce is that Beyonce plain doesn't give a damn what anyone else thinks. She sees what she desires and go gets it while most women are too afraid of being labeled a slut or a hoe. Beyonce is a bad chick who isn't afraid to please her man, and in fact, she openly enjoys pleasing him. Any man worth having will respect that quality in any woman, and he will never judge her for showing just how much she wants her man.

Just like women love men with "swag," you need some swag about yourself if you wanna keep your man looking like Terrence Howard does in this picture. If a man puts a little bass in his voice and comes correct at you, you're willing to look beyond a whole lot of his shit because his swag makes you wanna be with him. We feel no different. Never stop being a lady, and never stop letting your man see your inner vixen. That's where the passion and desire that make love the experience it should be thrive. Let loose, and let's get it.

Who's That Lady?

My friend asked me earlier why men are so caught up with a woman's physical beauty and what it takes to get past that. She spoke of a scenario where a man is involved with two women. The first isn't ugly, but isn't something to marvel at. However, she cooks, cleans, and is a beast in the bedroom. The second one has little to nothing that compares to the first, except she's a complete bombshell. She said that women don't understand why guys always go for number 2. I'll tell you why.

First, as everyone knows, men are sexually charged creatures. We see, we want. It's that simple. Nothing compares to waking up in the morning and seeing a dime laying there next to you. It's what's at the top of Macho Mountain for some people. When it comes to woman number 1, although we appreciate everything she does, with the exception of the sex we can do it ourselves. The need for that kind of thing doesn't compare to that initial drive when we see a dime walk by. It probably won't ever.

The only thing that can make a man look past all of that is himself. No matter how perfect a woman is physically or romantically, that man isn't going to change his ways until he says it's a wrap. You can't convince us with acts sacrifice, gifts, sex, or anything else you have to offer. Women shouldn't blame themselves or quesiton their worth because men don't seem to pick up on it. We do. But that has little to nothing to do with whether or not we will choose to look behind the initial physical attraction.

One Night Stands...

One night stands... such a controversial topic. We've all thought about it. Most of us have done it or will do it. But the question is, "Is it right?" My answer? Almost always it's cool to have a one night stand so long as you're responsible about it. That means condoms. That means knowing whether or not you can emotionally handle that nothing may materialize beyond the morning after. That means being willing to deal with the consequences of such a choice like pregnancy and the like. And it definitely means keeping it real with those whom you choose to be intimate with.

Many people wonder about whether having sex too quickly makes you a hoe. I generally don't think so as long as you're honest with yourself about what you're getting into. Although it's true that many men will consider women who give it up to be hoes, in my opinion, that attitude reflects a blatant hypocrisy that men rarely admit to. There ultimately should be no difference between a man choosing to have sex quickly and a woman making the same choice. However, I'm kidding myself to think that the world will see it that way, and I'm kidding myself to think that men will recognize the hypocrisy.