Showing posts with label Dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dating. Show all posts

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Who's That Lady?

My friend asked me earlier why men are so caught up with a woman's physical beauty and what it takes to get past that. She spoke of a scenario where a man is involved with two women. The first isn't ugly, but isn't something to marvel at. However, she cooks, cleans, and is a beast in the bedroom. The second one has little to nothing that compares to the first, except she's a complete bombshell. She said that women don't understand why guys always go for number 2. I'll tell you why.

First, as everyone knows, men are sexually charged creatures. We see, we want. It's that simple. Nothing compares to waking up in the morning and seeing a dime laying there next to you. It's what's at the top of Macho Mountain for some people. When it comes to woman number 1, although we appreciate everything she does, with the exception of the sex we can do it ourselves. The need for that kind of thing doesn't compare to that initial drive when we see a dime walk by. It probably won't ever.

The only thing that can make a man look past all of that is himself. No matter how perfect a woman is physically or romantically, that man isn't going to change his ways until he says it's a wrap. You can't convince us with acts sacrifice, gifts, sex, or anything else you have to offer. Women shouldn't blame themselves or quesiton their worth because men don't seem to pick up on it. We do. But that has little to nothing to do with whether or not we will choose to look behind the initial physical attraction.

Monday, September 24, 2007

Interracial Dating


He's got jungle fever....she's got jungle fever....they've got jungle fever...they're in love! (I had to do it..sorry)
Interracial dating has been a hot button issue for some time now. I personally don't do it because I value black women too much to want anything else, but I understand that's just me. I was the only one out of all of my friends from college and high school just about who felt that way, and that will likely hold true the rest of my life. I just can't do it, nor do I want to. I won't knock those guys who choose to do it.
What I will knock is their reasoning. Sure, sometimes you can run into some trouble dating black women, but rarely does it ever have to do with them simply being black. No race of woman is superior by virtue of skin color, and having your white girl as a status symbol or trophy spits on the struggles our mothers and grandmothers made to raise us. Please stop it. You date white women because you want to, not because they're better than black women.
I read an article recently that suggests that black women are turning to white men and others as an alternative since there aren't black men available. If black men truly aren't available in enough numbers, I truly empathise. That's gotta be rough. I've heard all of the doomsday statistics about the state of black men and won't bother to repeat them, but in my heart, I know that all the news about us isn't bad. Keep believing in us. Please :).