Sink or Seduce: What Kind of Woman Are YOU?!

Beyonce is quite possibly the sexiest woman on Earth. I mean, check the picture if you doubt it. Even though this performance was exactly that, you gotta admit it was a bit much for an award show. How many women do you know could give a man who everyone knows is not her boyfriend a lap dance like this in front of millions of people and not be considered a hoe or slut (all hating aside)?

The crucial difference between the average woman and Beyonce is that Beyonce plain doesn't give a damn what anyone else thinks. She sees what she desires and go gets it while most women are too afraid of being labeled a slut or a hoe. Beyonce is a bad chick who isn't afraid to please her man, and in fact, she openly enjoys pleasing him. Any man worth having will respect that quality in any woman, and he will never judge her for showing just how much she wants her man.

Just like women love men with "swag," you need some swag about yourself if you wanna keep your man looking like Terrence Howard does in this picture. If a man puts a little bass in his voice and comes correct at you, you're willing to look beyond a whole lot of his shit because his swag makes you wanna be with him. We feel no different. Never stop being a lady, and never stop letting your man see your inner vixen. That's where the passion and desire that make love the experience it should be thrive. Let loose, and let's get it.

Child Support... Please Grow Up Men!

So I was at the barber shop today for an insanely long time, and I witnessed a very interesting conversation. I sat in the midst of ten grown men, all of them several years older than me. There was a preacher, a couple d-boys, a student, and a few regular old Joes. Yet most of them had one thing in common; they did not want to pay child support or simply refused to pay. Some had the nerve to complain that judges would jail them for refusing to pay. One person jokingly said that they should treat child support like electricity (i.e. - when you're two months behind, they just cut you off).

The shit isn't funny. It's not even understandable. If you're going to be man enough to lay it down, you should be man enough to raise the child that could result. That's why we have condoms, birth control, the morning after pill, and as a last result abortion. As a law student, I understand and agree with some of the criticisms of alimony/child support law and its mechanics. However, for now, the law is what it is and you have to respect that. I am not a parent, but I can't imagine not wanting to provide for my family emotionally, financially, hell whateverly. You cannot call yourself a man and not have a presence in the life of your children. You're a coward. Please get it right.

Who Wears the Pants in this Relationship?

Inspired by my wonderful friend Tiffany, I decided to ponder this topic. I ultimately believe in a perfect environment that relationships and marraiges should be partnerships. Where someone is slacking, the other should be right there to pick it up. People have individual talents and strengths, and I believe you should always defer to the more qualified person. However, sometimes you can run into the problem of too many chiefs and not Indians. I think it's all a matter of understanding that by submitting to someone else's lead, you are not necessarily forsaking power of your own in the relationship. Whether you do that in terms of raising your children or finances, or whatever, as with most other relationships, it all begins with balance.

I believe that everyone can be satisfied with a little effort and a little mutual sacrifice like the couple above. In the midst of so many people worried about sacrificing career for love, no one talks about those who make it work like the couple pictured above. Now, Barack Obama is the hottest politician in the streets with books and speeches galore, but his wife Michelle is an accomplished attorney and leader in her own right and she was a boss in the game well before she and Barack got married. Yet despite their quite extensive ambition to become the best, they have a strong family and better yet a strong family life. It can be done, and they're doing it on the biggest stage you can imagine. There's no reason we can't all learn a lot from them.