Ladies, if a man isn't pleasing you sexually, how do you handle it? I'm willing to bet most of you don't tell him what he needs to hear; the TRUTH. I know our egos tend to be overinflated and fragile at times. But if you don't let a man know he needs to step his game up, he'll continue screwing it up. I've heard plenty of stories with details about how disappointed women were with men's performance. If you're not going to kick him out and tell him why he's gotta go, or tell him that he needs to do something better or not at all, you're contributing to his falsely overinflated ego thereby making the problem worse. Sure his feelings might be hurt, but he'll go walk it off eventually and step his game up.
Men should have a passion to study the female form just like we'd study anything else. Sure every woman is different, but all women respond to the attention you pay towards mastering physically pleasing them, and they'll be all the more willing to work with you. Plus, real talk, if you want her to remember the time she spent with you, you'll man up and learn what it takes.
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Most women never tell a man (aside from maybe their husband because of the long term commitment) that he is lacking something in the bedroom. Women withhold such information because in the past when it was divulged they have found that it didn't solve anything. And when told, most men just deny the accusations and somehow make it "her" fault. So, women keep it to themselves. The only thing worse than a man that is bad in bed - is a sexually insecure man that is bad in bed.
But that's my point! Be part of the solution! LOL
My point is that women have tried that before (trying to be part of the solution). Men aren't trying to hear what we say!
I find that really hard to believe, but then again, I'm not a woman and I haven't dated men. If you say so homie. But my thinking is that if a man is like that, why would you want to be with him anyway?
i've seen it both ways. some men want to know what they can do better, some--even after receiving instruction--prefer their own failed attempts at pleasure.
personally, i make suggestions once and once only. if he gets better, great. if not, i will either show him to the door or pack up my belongings and leave. he's either humble and willing to take direction or bull-headed and prideful. really, the solution is simple. no point in wasting my time repeating myself.
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