Stop Playin Yourself

I've had a couple very compelling conversations with my female friends about a very pressing topic. They were of the general opinion for some reason that men lie about their relationship status and how they feel about women when they're trying to get some. Perhaps because that's very true. Men lie, but women do too. I am not defending those who choose to lie when I say this, but at some point, you have to take responsibility for believing those lies or not expecting action in conformity with what men say. The writing on the wall is normally clear enough to tell you everything you need to know if you're paying attention.

I see women playing themselves quite a bit, and it concerns me. You'd be amazed at some of the things that women respond to favorably without a scintilla of substance. Whether it's naivety or desire that clouds your judgment, you have to realize it is being clouded at some point. I have played myself by being blinded to what was really being said, and it has hurt or embarassed me. I'm not afraid to admit that, so I rarely take any woman's statement at face value until I get a better picture of how her actions relate to the things she says. I don't think women are not to be trusted, and I don't think women should adopt the "I don't believe ish you say" appraoch either. You can hear what a guy or girl is telling you and wait for them to deliver without getting yourself in too deep. Words in and of themselves should never be enough to get you open. They are rarely as real and satisfying as the real thing.