Stop Stalking!

This has been an issue of mine for a minute now. I am way past tired of men (or those who claim to be men) stalking women they're dating or interested in dating. I can list off several occassions where I've said something to a female friend of mine on facebook, myspace, or in person that some random guy has taken issue with in one way or another. Some of these guys have friends who check their girl's facebook page for them and report back on who said what. GROW THE #$)@ UP! PLEASE! If all it takes is a couple of slick comments on facebook to threaten your relationship, you shouldn't be worried about what I have to say. You should be worried about why your girl isn't that into you. If you're not even in a relationship with the woman at issue, you have no business seeing who said what and when.

This kind of stuff stems from the attitude of protectiveness that men have about women they're involved with. There's nothing wrong with that, but I think we're losing sight of what matters. The best way to make sure your girl doesn't go astray isn't checking who's potentially trying to take your place, it's making sure you're standing strong in your place and that your woman knows you're not going anywhere just yet. You really have to put that woman first, not random guys. If you're doing the best you can in your relationship or trying to holla, you will be assured of two things. First, your girl will know that you're for real and if she feels the same way, she'll know she's getting your best and she won't go anywhere. Second, if your girl isn't really that into you, you won't have to worry yourself with questions like "What if I had done better by her? Would we still be together?" because you'll know that your best just wasn't enough for old girl and you can keep it moving.

Plus you don't want to encourage men like me who aren't so insecure about things like that to come and take yours. That kind of attitude makes it much easier. Trust me.